Ever since I cleaned up, and moved boxes out of the computer room: the cats couldn't find a comfortable place to perch while I was in there.

Problem solved.

 

 

There seems to be some difficulty in getting people to assume that I'm pretty well okay, and am really not worried about most that comes my way, or otherwise aimed in my general direction.

I seem to have to spend extra time to relay:
I generally don't mention anything in terms of how it effects me. I mention it because of what it means to the subject in question, and/or how it may shape things to come.

eg: "That was insulting, really insulting, so of course it was annoying, but in the end immaterial. But for them to do/say that, what does relay about their way of thinking/state/other attribute?"

I'm confident about myself, and/or being, because of the sum of my actions, what can be shown, not just said.


For somebody to say they're confident, or decent, while choosing to continue to perform actions that show a lack of confidence, or actions that they themselves in any other time would consider indecent... What does it mean?

Well, regardless of who they want to be seen as, or who they feel they are: if they repeatedly chose to act in a certain way, regardless of time, state, feeling, or whoever else is there...
They are being a person who is choosing to act that way.

If they don't like being that way, because at that point it's not just an "image":
Then they have to stop living to do damage control, stop relaying on sympathy, or on pity for cover, and find and deal with the issues that lead to damaging actions.

It's odd when you meet those that remind you of Duddy Kravitz...

Not the specifics... But general behavior and attitude trends, applied to the subject in question.